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Dear Doctor,
I'm 25 Year Old Indian working in Saudi Arabia for the last five years. my problems are as follows.
1. My Penis is hardly 4 inches long.
2. I have a problem of premature ejaculation. When i tried to make love with my girl friend, i got discharged very fast. In fact, I made her cloths vet. We only started kissing each other and she just took my penis is her hands. This made both of us unhappy. Sometimes even when I watch sex movies i get ejaculated without any sort of actions from my side. I'm totally disturbed. I am planning to get married in March 2001 and this makes me worried.
a) can i satisfy my wife while i have these problems.
b) what shall i do to increase or have a better timing. (even i tried to change my thoughts at times, ejaculation occurs)
c) what shall i do to increae the size of my penis? Is this enough
d)My Right side ball is quite larger in size and does this have any problem for my sex life?
Doctor, pleae treat this case seriously and give some advise to help this brother to have a happy married life.
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Answer:
by Poosha Darbha: (01/08/2006)
Friend,
I doubt if you have measured your penis the correct way, because very few people know the procedure. Even if you have measured your penis correctly, four inches is undoubtedly long enough to touch the most sensitive areas inside the vagina. Remember that a woman’s vaginal barrel is not sensitive to touch beyond about two-and-a-half to 3 inches deep. The G-spot, a sexually sensitive area which some women have, also exists within this zone. The pleasure from penile thrusting within the vagina is experienced only in the outer two-thirds of the vaginal barrel, while deep thrusting gives an indirect stimulation to the clitoris. Most women experience peaks in sexual pleasure through direct stimulation of clitoris, not through penile thrusting.
So, stop being length-conscious! Men do differ in their endowment. One never resembles the other in spite of being of the same age, height, weight, ethnicity, city (geographical region) etc. Never compare yourself with others as this will only lead to disappointment and frustration.
You may be interested to know you are not alone the way you think. In a survey of 50,000 American males, David A. Frederick, a researcher in body-image issues at the University of California, Los Angeles found that 50% of men wanted more penis size than they have, while 85% of women are satisfied with what their men have. "The picture this paints for us is that people are way more self-critical of themselves than they need to be…” he says.
I also differ with your contention that satisfying your wife is YOUR duty. Do not take any such responsibilities on your head, for it is for her to find pleasure and satisfaction in sex, towards which you both play your respective roles. Several women take a little while to learn to reach orgasms and in the mean time you should not find yourself blaming your penis size, ability and so on.
Ejaculating too early is common for most men of your age/sexual inexperience. I consider this not as an inability but as high degree of sexual excitement common in such situations. When your sexual interactions become more frequent, and occur under anxiety-free conditions you may gain better control over your sexual responses including ejaculatory (orgasmic) response.
You have learned so many skills during the past 25 years, right from crawling, walking, running to swimming, driving, using computers … etc. The very same way you (two together) can learn the art of sex too. Go through some marriage manuals available in the market.
I conclude by repeating that 1) your penis length is good enough and there is no need to increase it. There is no safe and dependable method of enlarging it. 2) You can enjoy your sex life just as any other person could, and help your sex partner enjoy too by learning the art of lovemaking. 3) Consult a physician regarding your enlarged right testis. It should not affect your sexual function unless it is tender, painful, or too heavy. These problems, if present, can be easily treated. 4) You can learn to stay longer in intercourse through control techniques such as squeeze technique, start-stop technique or the one I described elsewhere in this web site (http://www.sexualhealth.com/question.php?Action=read&question_id=2381). Best wishes.
Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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