Answer:
by Scott Gross: (02/24/2005)
Hi and thanks for your question. I take it from the tone of your question that this has never really happened to you before. I doubt that you had trouble getting and maintaing an erection due to the time you took off from dating. Men can experience difficulty achieving or maintaining an erection for a number of reasons and it can occur at any time. Most likely you were experiencing some underlying anxiety about your sexual act. You may not have even felt anxious at all. Of course once you were unable to get an erection it probably made the issue worse for you. It is unlikely that you have a physical problem, but should it occur again with any regularity then you will want to see a doctor, and probably a specialist called a urologist. He/she will be able to determine if there is a physical problem involved.
In the mean time, if it happens again you should stop what you are doing (or trying to do) and take some time to relax. Go back to foreplay, spend some time kissing, exploring each others' bodies, and touching parts of the body that don't involve the genitals. Focusing on erection dysfunction will only make it worse because now your trying to force your body to perform. Slowing sex down will not only make for a more enjoyable experience for you both, but will also help to take your mind off the issue, help you relax, and probably relieve the problem.
I hope that this helps you. Feel free to ask any other questions you might have...we're here to help.
Take care,
Scott Gross Reviewed by: Scott Gross M. Ed.
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