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Question:
i have never had a vaginal orgasm in 16 years of having sex with different partners.
clitoral orgasm is no problem. While stimulated by fingers i feel a sensation but not with a penis, if i do feel anything it is sore more than pleasure.
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Answer:
by Beverly Whipple: (05/18/2004)
What you describe is not unusual or abnormal. Only about one third of women consistently have orgasm during intercourse. Each woman responds differently to different forms of sexual and sensual stimulation. You say that you do have sensation with finger stimulation. You and your partner may want to try stimulating your Grafenberg or G spot. It is located about half way behind the back of the pubic bone and the cervix of the uterus, along the course of the urethra. If your partner stimulates the front, anterior wall, or top wall of your vagina with a “come here” motion with his palm facing up while you are lying on your back, you may at first feel an urge to urinate. This quickly passes to a pleasurable sensation in women who enjoy G spot stimulation. You might even experience an orgasm from this form of stimulation. If so, you then may want to try positions of intercourse in which the penis hits the front wall of the vagina. The woman on top position is very helpful for this type of stimulation. There are also many books that will give you specific directions.
You also say you are sore during penile stimulation. This is not normal. Are you lubricating? Do you use a water-based lubricant if you are not lubricating enough? You should see a gynecologist to be checked. Around age 35 many women begin to loose estrogen, which is what helps with vaginal lubrication.
I want to encourage you to enjoy what brings you sexual pleasure and stop striving for an orgasm from intercourse. Enjoy what you find pleasurable.Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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