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Question:
Sex has become close to non-existent due to my wife's chronic pain associated with fibromyalgia. What suggestions
do you have for us?
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Answer:
by Elizabeth McNeff: (05/16/2004)
I have some personal experience with chronic pain. Although I do not experience pain during intercourse per se, I do have
pain in my shoulders and one arm that makes staying in certain positions for a prolonged time uncomfortable. As Mitch
suggests, changing positions frequently helps. Unfortunately, a person canıt completely control or predict a period of extreme
pain or weakness associated with pain, so timing for sexual activity may be difficult. But with planning, creativity and
communication, many couples develop an enjoyable sex life in spite of one partnerıs pain.
If hot and fast sexual activity is too painful, try slowing down a little. Slow and easy intercourse can be intensely gratifying. As
one friend puts it, ³The crescendo takes longer to build, and the sweetness of each moment is prolonged. Everyone should try
easygoing sex once in a while; itıs very satisfying.² People who pace themselves to avoid causing undue pain may find it
helps them appreciate sexual activity even more.
Consult your physician for appropriate pain medication. While I do not advocate the continued use of prescription
medications, they can be beneficial on occasion. As Mitch and I have stressed in the past, there may be sexual
side-effects--some drugs can inhibit lubrication, delay orgasm and/or make some sexual contact uncomfortable--so please
discuss their use with your health care provider.
--Lizzi McNeff
Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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