In the first place, if you are not acquainted with the anatomy and function of female genitalia, learn about them from any beginner's books on sexuality or web sites such as the clitoris.com.

Squat down, keep a mirror in front of your vulva and identify your vaginal opening. Lubricate the index and middle fingers of your hand liberally with a water soluble jelly (KY Jelly or Surgilube, for example).

Slowly insert one finger first into the vagina and work your way into it as deep as you can go. Once you feel comfortable with this procedure, try to insert two fingers (Be sure your nails are trimmed) but it's okay even if they do not go all the way into the vagina. A little over one inch of penetration is sufficient to understand that your vagina can receive an average penis without much difficulty. Once you understand this, you can then attempt at intercourse with the newfound knowledge that your sex organs are physically ready. All you have to do now is to try intercourse in a relaxed setting taking all the time you need to accomplish it.

Relax and spend good time in giving and receiving sexual pleasure other than intercourse. When you think you are mentally ready and when your vagina is wet with lubricating secretions, you may start to receive your partner's penis. Before attempting penetration, keep a small pillow underneath your buttocks - this will make penetration easier.

Let a liberal amount of lubricating jelly be applied to the penis too. Bring the head of the erect penis close to your vaginal opening and place it exactly at the entrance. Then pull it a few centimeters slowly into the vagina.

At this point let your partner help you by slowly pushing his erect penis. If it causes pain to you, have an arrangement before hand that, he should stop pushing when you signal him.

If necessary, your partner may be encouraged to make very short and slow back-and-forth thrusting movements without dislodging the penis from the vagina. These movements do not cause pain, but will arouse you and make you lubricate more. Additionally the vaginal entrance opening widens and penetration becomes easy.

Under normal circumstances, you will most likely succeed in acheiving a painless penetration by following these guidlelines. Should you need further help, please do not hesitate to contact.

Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team