Question:
I am a 20 y/o circumcised male who has some questions about masturbation. I have been masturbating since I was a kid and have always looked for ways to enhance my pleasure.
When I masturbate I usually wear a latex glove using lube while I watch pornography. This works fine but I'm looking for more pleasure/more orgasms or ejaculations.
Sometimes I try pocket masturbators with vibrators in them, and I always ejaculate too quickly. When I try to stimulate the head of my penis with my hand it is always too sensitive. I heard that if a guy tries to ejaculate more than once "at one sitting" that the second or third time it will take longer to ejaculate and therefore more pleasure, but I just can't do it. Just before I orgasm I want to go again, but when I do my refractory period kicks in and I can't do it. I haven't physically tried much, but mentally I don't want to go for another round because once the drive is gone, all of the sudden I am afraid that my parents will catch me watching porn or that the DVD will get stuck.
Any ideas on how I can maximize my pleasure/have a 2nd longer orgasm?
Thanks,
Quality and Quantity
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Answer:
by Jenni Skyler: (11/22/2009)
The journey for pleasure is life-long, but good for you to start on it so young! While having guilt about masturbation is common, sometimes we can ask ourselves where the guilt comes from, and if it really serves us well. Masturbation is the safest and surest path to pleasure. It is an essential and beautiful aspect of our human sexuality. And even though it may not be a topic for everyday dinner conversation, at your age most parents will respect the privacy of a closed door. However, it may serve you well to include other sensory stimulations in your repertoire of fantasy, such as erotic literature. This can also help when parents are home.
As for techniques, I am curious if you have ever tried to masturbate without a glove, with your other hand, or with both hands? There are a number of methods for solo male masturbation. Many men write in about their secret or favorite technique at www.jackinworld.com. Alternatively, Fire in the Mountain is a great video that also demonstrates a variety of stroke and caress techniques. Many of these methods go beyond the up and down, vertical stroking, which can also help prolong pleasure before ejaculation.
As for refractory periods, these vary from man to man, but tend to get longer with age. Furthermore, only some men report that these immediate second or third orgasms are more pleasurable than the first. I would start with focusing on your first orgasm—maximizing the build-up and prolonging ejaculation so that you can heighten this initial orgasm. Again, Fire in the Mountain takes a tantric perspective to offer helpful suggestions on how to do this. Good luck, and enjoy your budding travels!
Reviewed by: Kathleen Scarbo (VanKirk) DHS
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