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I just started having sex with my GF, and the first time lasted forever, but since then it went from a few minutes, to basically right when we started. I tried being on top for the first time and just after putting it in her i lost myself which is bad because i want to please her. What can i do to make sure i at least long enough to give her a fightin chance. Also I am new at this and can honestly say i dont now where the clitoris is. i have fingered her and used my mouth but i really dont know where the clitioris is or the g spot and i would like to so i could better please her. I have gave her one orgasim during sex some how and she loved it and i want to do it again. So if you could please reply by email and give me a detailed desciption of just exactly where and what i should be lookin for. And also the best way to pleaase her once i find them. I really appreacite it. Thanks.

Answer:
by Logan Levkoff: ()
Thank you for submitting your question. It is a common one. The clitoris is a small knob of tissues at the top of the vulva (where the vaginal lips meet). It is covered by a small piece of tissue. When stimulated, the clitoris becomes erect (or harder). This (response)is similar to a male erection, but it is much smaller than a penile erection. The g-spot (more difficult to find) is a small area on the top of the vagina (inside. Many women cannot find their g-spots, so do not become discouraged if you cannot find your girlfriend's...As for reaching orgasm, it is important that your girlfriend figures out what will give her the most pleasure. If she masturbates, she will have a good idea of what can bring her to orgasm. It is important that you both communicate about pleasure in general (yours as well). Take it easy though. If you focus too much on the orgasm, it can become frustrating. Relax, and talk to your girlfriend. Hopefully you can figure out a way to heighten your sexual relations. Hope this information helps.

Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology

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