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I need help resetting an internal clock, either mine or my husband's. We both love sex, but while I would like it nearly anytime I'm awake, he's interested only late at night, after I've been asleep for about an hour. I've tried to stay up, but for me the limit is about midnight... after that, I'm a zombie. He gets interested in sex about 1 or 1:30. We've also tried getting him interested at times when I'm actually awake... no soap.
We're newlyweds, and we were in a long distance realtionship for 5 years prior to marriage. (I thought he was only a night owl on weekends... I was wrong.)
We've discussed this and neither of us is happy about the situation, but we have no idea what to do. Help!
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Answer:
by Melissa BEE: ()
Thank you for your very interesting question. I'm also at a loss as to what to suggest. I do know that natural biorythms are very difficult to change, this is why people suffer from jet-lag.
All I can suggest is to hang in there. It is a well known fact that people who live together bodily cycles tend to harmonise for reasons not yet understood by scientists. This is particularly obvious in households where there are several women all of reproductive age. They all tend to have their period around the same times each month. Nobody is sure why or how it happens, but I myself have lived in with groups of other women sharing houses and flats when I was nursing, and experienced that phenomena myself.
So my suggestion is to wait, and hopefully you will synchronise to each others cycles. For some couples there are 'ideal times' and other not-so-ideal times. Learning more about each others turn-ons, arousal times and your own schedules, so hopefully, in the not too distant future, you will find times when you can really sizzle together.
Good Luck!
Melissa BEEReviewed by: Kathleen VanKirk DHS
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