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by Melissa BEE: ()
Thank you for your question. I doubt that the 'problem' is directly linked to your disability, however, I wouldn't rule out a psychological factor, as fear and uncertainty can have devastating physical effects on some men.
My suggestion is to see a GP with whom you are very comfortable with, and ensure there are no physical reasons. S/h may suggest follow up with a sex or relationship therapist, who can help you explore emotional and psychological issues, expectations and your own self esteem.
In conclusion, there is no reason why you can't have a happy and healthy sex life. You also don't say whether you have ever had this problem before, so it is difficult to determine whether this is a short or long term problem. You also mention you are in your 50s and also mention a number of drugs that may have an interactive effect and cause difficulties with erection - again, see your doctor about this. You also mentioned the use of Viagra. I can't praise the careful use of this drug enough. It gives a very natural erection response, and very intense orgasm. Again, see your doctor about whether you are a suitable candidate to try it.
Good Luck.
Melissa BEE
Editors note: With autism often comes an alternative way of connecting interpersonally and, consequently, of processing intimacy. Another suggestion would be for you to consider exploring sexual strategies that focus on connection and intimacy - such as spiritual sexuality and/or tantric sex practices. They may help you to focus on connection and dissolve worries about sexual response. Take care, Patty Fawver, Ph.D., editor Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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