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My wife and I are both healthy 47 year olds who have been married for over 20 years. As is frequently the case, I suppose, we have settled into a pretty predictable routine in the bedroom with a very limited repertoire of positions. Basically my wife dislikes anything with deep penetration because she feels like it "bumps her internal organs" Because of this she will not even raise her knees in the man-on-top missionary position. Our sex life is OK, so I'm not really complaining, but is there any way we can get both deep penetration for me and comfort for her? Is there such a thing as a vagina that is "too short"? Apart from her discomfort, can any damage be done by deep penetration? She has a mild curvature of the spine and she wonders if her organs are somewhat displaced because of this.

Answer:
by Melissa BEE: ()
Thank you for your question. It is normal (and natural) for the uterus and supporting tissues to drop or prolapse a little after childbirth and with increasing age. This technically would shorten the vagina, because the cervix protrudes into the vaginal canal. If you are finished having children, there are surgical corrective procedures available ranging from tightening everything up, to full sterilization procedures removing the whole uterus (the womb)- this is called a hysterectomy. I know of women who after having their uterus removed were able to have deep penetration and experience orgasm for the first time. I also know of a woman who only discovered she had a g-spot after her uterus had been removed. This lady also has mild scoliosis in her lumbar spine. It was a very pleasant surprise for her after 30 years of pain and anorgasmia. So it may be a good idea for your wife to go and chat with her gynecologist to find out what all her options are for contraception and for increased sexual pleasure. You may both be pleasantly surprised at some of the options. Good Luck! Melissa BEE

Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology

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