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Question:
I am 17 and I have never ejaculated. Never in a wet dream, never through masturbation, never with a girl. I can get erections with no problem. Is there something wrong with me?

Answer:
by Konstance McCaffree: ()
I would need more information before I would ever suggest that something might be wrong. For example do you use alcohol and/or drugs before you engage in intercourse with a girl? Are you afraid of getting her pregnant? Do you use latex condoms with her? It is certainly not unusual for a male to not have a wet dream. Many men never have them. You suggest that you masturbate but it is important also to think about what the conditions are around you when you masturbate. Are you able to have complete privacy or are you afraid you might get caught? What kind of stimulation do you do? What kinds of fantasies to you have when you masturbate? Do you have enough lubrication so the penis actually feels good and not dry and irritated? Do you use various positions to get your body very stimulated? Some men can masturbate but don't use enough stimulation that really makes them feel good enough to orgasm, so you may just need to experiment with other ways to get your excitement higher. You say you have an erection which is very positive, but you also need to find that point where you really are excited and can't hold back the orgasm. That is why many men enjoy masturbating. They find different ways to stimulate their body. When you have intercourse with a partner it is easy to get worried about pleasing her and then not be able to get excited enough to have your own orgasm. I would work on the masturbation and see if you can't increase your excitement. You probably need more stimulation and bigger fantasy. Don't hesitate to let ANY fantasy turn you on. Sometimes people are afraid of the fantasy since it might seem like a taboo one, and they don't let the fantasy enter their heads. Also, it is not unusual for a male to be very worried about getting a partner pregnant and that tends to keep him worried and not able to orgasm.

Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology

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