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Ever since I was about 9 yrs old I have always ejaculated by rubbing my penis against a pillow so whenever I ejaculated, my penis was always standing straight up. After many years of doing this, now whenever i feel aroused, my penis stands straight up. I thought that this might be a problem in the future when I tried to have intercourse and wasn't sure until I attempted to have intercourse for the first time this summer. When I was on top of the girl and tried to stick my penis in her vagina, it seemed that it just wouldn't go into the hole. After many minutes of trying to move my penis around so it would go in, I finally achieved slight penetration. I didn't feel like i was fully penetrating, however, and I proceeded to switch positions for better penetration. I was never able to get my penis to enter again that night. This has been my only sexual encounter and I'm scared that all my future ones will all be like this one. I now ejaculate w/ my hand so my penis is as straight forward as possible but it always wants to go upward. My question is how common a problem is this and CAN YOU PLEASE HELP ME!
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by Konstance McCaffree: ()
Yours is such a common problem that males describe in their first intercourse. First, the way your penis stands is not related to anything but the way your body is built. Men are all different in the direction the penis points when it is erect. It has nothing to do with masturbation styles and I urge you to continue masturbating in ways that feel good for you.
The erect penis can actually protrude in many directions, and you were smart to realize that you will need to get into different body positions based on the way your penis points. Men just have to do that.
The reason that it went down is you probably began to worry about it, and the longer it took to get in position the more stress you had, and that took away the relaxed feeling of pleasure. That will cause the erection to go down.
What you need to do is just relax. You now know a little more about your body positioning and hopefully the next time you can get into that position a little easier, as well as show your partner how to be. So often we don't communicate to our partner and the partner doesn't know what to do, how to act,or where to put anything.
It seems to me that you took all the responsibility of having the sex, by putting the penis in and everything. The partner can do that - the partner can guide the penis in, continue stroking it so you continue to get sensation.
The act of intercourse needs to involve the two people, who help one another and find ways to pleasure each other. The partner need to tell you what his/her needs are as well. Just a penis going in the vagina doesn't always make sex pleasureable for a woman. So helping her feel good is also part of it.
Please feel free to ask more questions if this doesn't answer everything you wanted to know.Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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