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Ever since I was about 9 yrs old I have always ejaculated by rubbing my penis against a pillow so whenever I ejaculated, my penis was always standing straight up. After many years of doing this, now whenever i feel aroused, my penis stands straight up. I thought that this might be a problem in the future when I tried to have intercourse and wasn't sure until I attempted to have intercourse for the first time this summer. When I was on top of the girl and tried to stick my penis in her vagina, it seemed that it just wouldn't go into the hole. After many minutes of trying to move my penis around so it would go in, I finally achieved slight penetration. I didn't feel like i was fully penetrating, however, and I proceeded to switch positions for better penetration. I was never able to get my penis to enter again that night. This has been my only sexual encounter and I'm scared that all my future ones will all be like this one. I now ejaculate w/ my hand so my penis is as straight forward as possible but it always wants to go upward. My question is how common a problem is this and CAN YOU PLEASE HELP ME!
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by Georgan Gregg: ()
So glad that you found our site because it’s very likely that nothing at all is wrong, other than inexperience & anxiety. There is no “normal” method of masturbation because each person knows his or her own preference in sexual self-stimulation simply by experimenting. There are many variations on how erect penises look & it’s common for erections to have an angle.
There’s also a slight possibility you have Peyronie’s Disease. No one knows why this condition comes about. The symptoms include curvature of the erect penis, which may interfere with intercourse, pain during erection, soft erections, shortening, or narrowing of the penis & a hard plaque felt below the skin. If you think you might have Peyronie’s you should see an urologist because it’s a progressive condition. Read about Peyronie’s in detail at the National Institute of Health’s site devoted to it. If you go to a urologist, I suggest you take Polaroid photos of your erection from a top & side view to demonstrate the angle, as it may be a bit embarrassing (& difficult) to show the actual erection which would interfere with getting a diagnosis.
In the meantime please understand that vaginal intercourse is enjoyed best when you are both relaxed and unhurried. Have you talked with your sexual partner about birth control & STD, or how you’ll feel about having had sex if you break up? Mature, sensitive discussions about important issues will help you both feel cared for & therefore more able to focus on what feels good rather than thinking about how things are going. There is no substitute for communication.
Let us know if we can be of further help.Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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