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I HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED AN ORGASIM THROUGH INTERCOURSE & CLITORIAL STIMULATION ..ALSO ANY SUGESTIONS ON WHERE TO FIND NEW POSITIONS.. WHAT WOULD YOU SUGGEST
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by Larry Siegel: (06/24/2004)
Hello and thanks for writing in. First, I apologize that it's taken awhile to get back to you... Your concern in certainly not an uncommon one for women. Unfortunately, I cannot diagnose or tell you what is happening, given the fact that I would need a great deal more information. I will, however, try to give you some general information that I hope will be of help to you. AS sex therapists, one of the first questions we would ask is whether or not this is something you experience all the time or only in cewrtain situations. For example, you say you don't have an orgasm with vaginal or clitoral stimulation. Is this only during intercourse or sex with a partner or can you have an orgasm by pleasuring yourself (manually, with toys - vibrator, dildo, etc.)? Also, there are many types of medications (both prescription and over-the-counter) that can inhibit your ability to have an orgasm. Are there any other medical reasons for this (ie, thyroid problems)? These all have to be looked at when trying to determine what might be going on.
I would also ask if you're sure that you don't have orgasms? All people have their own orgasmic styles. Some are more intense while others may be slight waves of pleasurable feelings. Women in our society have been set up by such "institutions" as Cosmo and other women's magazines. Women have been told to expect their lovers to give them the hollywood style, peel-off-the-ceiling kind of orgasms - in multiples! I have worked with a number of women over the years who are spending so much time waiting for the BIG O that they actually miss their own subtle orgasms.
You also asked for information on different positions. Sometimes, positioning can be the key. There are numerous positions to experiment with. IN fact, there are as many positions as your body can move. I will give you a few websites to check out. They all have descriptions of various positions to try. You can also check out our site under "sexual activities." The other websites are:
www.sexuality.org
www.howtohavegoodsex.com
www.sweetecstacy.com
http//minou.com/aboutsex/positions.htm
www.pleasure.co.nz/sex/positions.html
These should help you get started. It might also be a good idea to have a complete check up from your gynecologist, just to rule out anything physical. You also might want to think about talking with a certified sex therapist in your area.
I hope this has been of some help to you. Please feel free to write again if there is anything else we can help you with.
Take care and be well.
Larry SiegelReviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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