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I have had to take contraceptive pills since I was 17 for medical reasons, so I am no stranger to the gynecologists' office. Since the beginning, I found Pap smears to be the most horrific thing I could imagine! I was a little worried about future intercourse.
I was married 2 years ago but my husband's penis was too large to fit inside me. I kept wanting to try intercourse, but it was always too painful. I finally ordered a couple of dildos in 2 sizes (thank God for online shopping) to practice/stretch with, and after 11 months we were finally able to consumate our marriage (and ob/gyn visits are no problem if I "practice" first). As of right now I am able to enjoy intercourse at least a little (still a beginner!)
The problem now is that I must stretch with the dildos (starting with the smaller one) before every time we have intercourse, or it is too painful. I just snap right back - and I need to stretch within a few hours of when we're going to have intercourse. This means zero spontanaiety in terms of having intercourse, which is something that would really help my husband enjoy our sex life more (come to think of it, I would enjoy it more too!).
Because the stretching bit is fairly unpleasant for me, and time consuming, I generally don't want to do it unless I'm "sure" we're going to have intercourse soon. And if we don't, for whatever reason, it frustrates me and makes me annoyed if it was my husband's choice not to.
Even trying intercourse several times in a day or several days in a row doesn't make me permanently stretched. Is there any chance that this situation can be resolved prior to childbirth (won't be for several years yet)?
Thanks!
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Answer:
by Farid Abdel Hadi: (06/09/2004)
Dear Madam
thank you for your question> when we teach mecical studnets, we tell them that the "vagina is a tubular organ capabale of great distension." And it is. Look t a newly born baby and try to imagine that it passed "normally" from the vagina. Nothing can be more demonstrative, and there is no way that nay male can be compared to a newly born baby, at least if we are talking in trerms of size (and definelty the baby wins). Now, we have not really seen a vagina that can be called, 'small', to the point that repeated intercourse and dilatation are not a cure. What I will recommend is that you go see your gynecologist, and make clear that this is your problem, I am sure you will find a cure there. I have not seen you, but vaginismus is a more probable diagnosis than a tight vagina. Believe me, you will soon find out that it was not that tight...Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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