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I’ve never had an orgasm, and I’m insecure about my appearance...what can I do?

I’m a 16-year-old girl, and I just started having sex with my boyfriend. I’ve never had an orgasm...and it’s starting to concern me. I thought this could be because I’m not confident with my genital area. I used to shave my pubic region, and now I get ingrown hairs. When I pluck them, they become scars...it’s not a great appearance. What can I do to clear up this problem and start enjoying sex?

Is it true that orgasms are healthy?

A friend told me that having orgasms are good for women’s sexual health. Is that true? If so, how often should I orgasm to be healthy?

Can birth control pills make orgasms more difficult to achieve?

I'm 16 and I’ve been on birth control for a long time. I recently started taking a certain brand, and all of a sudden my ability to orgasm went away...but I had been able to masturbate to orgasm before with no problems. So I decided to switch pills again to see if that would fix the problem...but nothing’s changed, even though I’ve been on it for almost a whole pack. Are birth control pills ruining my orgasms? Will I ever get my orgasms back?

Will masturbating now hurt me in the future?

I’m a young woman and I’ve been masturbating for two years...but I’m afraid that it’s bad for me. Will masturbating damage me sexually in the future?

I can orgasm from masturbation but not from intercourse. What’s going on?

I’m a woman and I can’t orgasm during intercourse, although I can achieve orgasm by masturbation. My partner and I love each other a lot, but our lives have been really stressful lately. I have a low sex drive and I’m feeling depressed about unemployment. How can I enjoy sex with my partner again?

I no longer find masturbation pleasurable...why?

I’m a 20-year-old woman and, for the past few years, I haven’t been able to become sexually aroused. When I was younger, I’d get turned on easily and enjoyed masturbation. Now when I try to masturbate, I don’t feel anything…and I’ve never had an orgasm. What do you suggest?