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I’m a woman and I want to decrease my high libido for the sake of my low libido husband. Any suggestions?

My spouse works a lot and is usually too tired for sex. I, on the other hand, could go for it anywhere, anytime, all the time. So what can I do to decrease my sex drive so he doesn't have to feel like I always want to jump his bones? I want him to be happy and I am tired of being frustrated. Your help and advice are appreciated, thanks for your time.

My wife and I are swingers...but lately she seems very interested in one other person. How do I talk to her about?

My wife and I have been involved in the "swinger" scene for some time now. It's been a wonderful way to express our sexuality as a couple over the years. However, I've sensed she has had more than a fleeting attraction to one of the other husbands we've been playing with in the last month. I'm somewhat surprised because we've always been so open with one another, but I don't know how to even bring this up. How can I address this with her without her feeling like I don't trust her? I don't want us to have to change our lifestyle.

I was sexually abused as an adolescent...now I’m sexually unresponsive to my new partner. Can you help?

I am an adult survivor of extreme domestic violence growing up, during which I was sexually abused as an adolescent. I recently met a wonderful man...but I admit that I’m always looking for something to be wrong with him. He told me he loved me and bought me gifts for Valentine’s Day, but I’m not sexually responsive to him. I don't know if I feel safer with unavailable men, or if I just am not attracted to him in spite of his gestures. Please help.

My partner is emotionally abusive and I can’t seem to orgasm...what’s going on?

I’m in my 40s and I’ve had a weight problem almost all my life. When I was growing up, my father made negative comments about my body and called me a whore. Now, my partner makes negative comments, too…and since my total hysterectomy, I can’t seem to have an orgasm any more. What do I need to do to have an orgasm?

Are couples with one disabled partner more likely to get divorced?

Are there any studies on divorce rates among couples in which one person has a disability? What's the main reason for divorce? Does sexual dysfunction play a role? Do people with more severe disabilities have more marital problems? How about people who were married before they became disabled?

Now that I’m 64, I only ejaculate about half the time when I have sex. What’s going on?

I’m a 64-year-old male in very good physical condition, but I don’t seem to ejaculate consistently. I have sex about 3-4 times per week. I’ll have sex and be able to ejaculate one week and then nothing the next week. I can’t figure it out. What’s going on?

What happens to male sexuality with age?

I’m 35, seeing a man who’s 55. What can you tell me about male sexuality at his age?

I’m a 70-year-old with a high libido and a body that doesn’t cooperate. What can I do?

I'm 70, and I still have the hots for my wife. But my mind and body aren't in synch like they used to be. My erections come and go – both before and during sex. Do you have any ideas for how to handle these unexpected interruptions?

My wife got drunk and kissed another woman. Does this mean she’s bisexual or gay?

A few months back, my wife went out with a friend of hers to a night club. My wife was drinking and ended up kissing another woman. Does that mean she’s bisexual or gay, or is it normal behavior? Most of her friends are either lesbian or bisexual...so maybe that has something to do with it?By the way, she’s 21 and I’m 24.

I have a strong sex drive, but my older partner couldn’t care less about sex. What are our options?

My partner and I are a gay couple and we have a problem in the bedroom. He’s 43 and not a very sexual person, while I’m 22 with a strong sex drive. He acts like sex is a chore. In fact, when I don’t come onto him, we don’t have sex. I don’t want to always throw myself at him...but I also don’t want to cheat or break up with him. So what can I do to get him to like sex the way I do?