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Is it normal to get aroused by everything my girlfriend does?

Is it normal to get aroused by any little thing a women does to you? I get aroused by hugs or kisses, or even holding hands. It's kind of embarrassing...how can I control my erections? At night, my girlfriend won't even cuddle because I have an erection. I'm really bad with premature ejaculation, too. Any thoughts?

What causes lack of sexual pleasure for men?

My husband is 22 years old and has never felt physical pleasure during masturbation or sex. Oral sex gives him a little pleasure, but only on the penis head and testicles. He can get an erection and ejaculate – but, again, it’s not pleasurable. Is there something physically or psychologically wrong with him?

How do you give oral sex to a man who’s uncircumcised?

The man I am currently with is not circumcised. How can I give oral sex to him so he can enjoy it? Do you pull the foreskin back?

K-Y Liquid makes me and my husband feel a burning sensation. Do we need to use a different lubricant?

My husband and I were both virgins when we married last week. We’ve been enjoying great sex, but decided that - for the extended efforts of newlyweds - we needed extra lubrication. We chose K-Y Liquid. It worked well until last night. As soon as my husband inserted his penis, it was like we both were on fire. We ran for the shower. Once rinsed we felt better, but we are hesitant to try again. Please help!

I’m a 70-year-old with a high libido and a body that doesn’t cooperate. What can I do?

I'm 70, and I still have the hots for my wife. But my mind and body aren't in synch like they used to be. My erections come and go – both before and during sex. Do you have any ideas for how to handle these unexpected interruptions?

I think my partner is addicted to sex...and it’s hurting our relationship. What can we do?

I'm a female involved in a relationship with another female. My partner has an extremely high sex drive ⎼ to the point where she has to have sex every day or she gets depressed and becomes passive-aggressive. I’d like a little more time between lovemaking. She says she needs a fix. We’ve talked a lot about it, but haven’t been able to resolve this issue. Do we need sex therapy?

We’ve been married 33 years and sex is no longer satisfying. Why?

I have been married for 33 years. For the past several years, I have had problems keeping an erection with my wife. For a long time, she’s made up excuses not to join me in sex. I’ve slept on the couch, been depressed and been on medication. I cheated and told her about it. Now we’re trying to work it out and we’re seeing a therapist, but I can’t seem to get excited by her. I love her and feel depressed over the whole thing. What’s the problem?

My boyfriend’s lack of interest in sex is ruining our relationship. What can we do?

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and generally have a good relationship. But for the last year, he’s not interested in sex. I didn’t know this happened to men and I feel discouraged and annoyed. We’re both in our early twenties. We used to be very sexually active but it seems as though sex is the last thing on his mind these days. I know he’s stressed, but sometimes he won’t even touch me for fear of turning me on. What do you suggest?

I haven’t had an orgasm in 20 years. What can I do?

I’m 45 and I haven’t been able to have an orgasm for more than 20 years…either by masturbation or intercourse. I was able to have them as a teenager and young woman, but they stopped after I had a serious anxiety disorder and left my husband. I do go to a therapist, but not specifically for this. I’m single and this interferes in my relationships with men because they seem to think it’s a reflection on them…which only causes me more anxiety. What should I do?

As my wife goes through menopause, we’re trying to keep a good sex life. What can we do?

I am a 44-year-old male, and my wife and I have enjoyed a very good and regular sex life for about 14 years. However, I’ve had intermittent erectile dysfunction for the past four months...and I think it’s because my 50-year-old wife is going through menopause. It seems like sex is a chore for her and this puts me off. Then I get anxiety and I can’t keep an erection. What should I do? I don’t want to stop having sex with my wife as we get older.