Expert Q & A Answers About Disabilities + Chronic Conditions
My partner is on high blood pressure medications and now she has no sexual desire whatsoever. She’ll satisfy my needs, but it’s all one-sided. I want to enjoy sex WITH her. Do you have any advice to counteract these side effects?
Sex has become close to non-existent due to my wife's chronic pain associated with fibromyalgia. What suggestions do you have for us?
My husband’s ankylosing spondylitis sometimes makes orgasms extremely painful for him. What can we do to enjoy sex?
My husband is 43, and he has ankylosing spondylitis. While our sex life is good, sometimes his orgasms cause him severe pain in his groin area, which can make him ill (diarrhea, vomiting, back pain, etc.) for days. This makes it difficult for either one of us at times to enjoy sex because he/we never know what the end result will be. As long as he stays active, the pain stays minimal but the sex is always a surprise as to whether or not it's painful. I want to help him so we can really enjoy sex, not be punished because of it. Can you help?
I am a 56-year-old post-menopausal woman with a healthy interest in sex. I have begun a serious relationship with a 66-year-old man, who is on medication for blood pressure and SSRI medication. He knows that the blood pressure med affects his sex life, but he acts as if there’s no problem. He hates the idea of Viagra and doesn’t want to talk about it. I love him and we talk about spending our lives together...but I want to be able to have sex. How can I get through to him?
I am an incomplete C5-6 quad. I’m 26, male and I’ve been injured for nine years. I have no problem getting or maintaining an erection (with little or no stimulation), but my ejaculations take too long. When I stimulate the base above the testes, I get quicker results, though…so I’m wondering if there’s a toy that stimulates just this area?
My son is engaged to a 20-year-old young woman. She was in a car accident and in a coma for 60 days. She’s finally awake and is doing well mentally, but she’s paralyzed from the waist down. They are planning to get married as soon as she gets her strength and health back. She is a darling girl and we are so lucky to still have her with us, but I am wondering about her chances of having children and how her paralysis will affect their sexual relations? My son loves her very dearly and is willing to do whatever it takes to make her happy. I would appreciate it if you could help educate me on some of the things that they might face as a married couple. Thank you so much.
My husband has a spinal chord injury and now won’t even touch me. What can we do to fix our marriage?
My husband sustained a spinal cord injury just a year after we married. Since then, he’s not interested in sex, and never touches me. In fact, even when I hug him, he pushes me away as soon as he can. I have begged him to go to marriage counseling with me to get help but he refuses. His refusal to even try to work on our problems has made me resentful and I have stopped trying. I live in one part of the house and he lives in the other and we don’t spend time together at all without fighting. Part of me thinks "leave and get a life," and part of me still loves him and feels sorry for him, and wants our marriage to work. I just don’t know what to do anymore.
I would like to know the easiest, least strenuous sexual positions for a man with emphysema so that he doesn’t get too out of breath. It’s been more than three years and it’s getting frustrating to both of us.
If I'm totally frank about what works for me, sexually, it involves asking my partner to do things for me that are normally performed by an attendant. Isn’t that too imposing, too much to expect?
The most satisfactory sexual experiences I've had are with other people with disabilities. That's fine, but how can I convince potential non-disabled partners that I have a libido and a responsive body?