Expert Q & A Answers About Disabilities + Chronic Conditions
I am a female C5-7 quad. Before my injury, my boyfriend frequently performed oral sex on me, which I enjoyed. Since my injury, we have not had oral sex because I am afraid of incontinence and am not sure how I will respond in terms of how it will feel, spasticity, leakage...you name it. Any suggestions?
My wife found out she might have cervical cancer and is scheduled to have a LEEP procedure done to remove some of the cells...what do I need to know about having sex with her after the procedure? Will she be okay? Will we be able to have normal sex?
I had a bone marrow transplant and hysterectomy and now I’m not interested in sex. Should I try testosterone gel?
I’m a 45 year-old-woman and recently had an autologous bone marrow transplant for Non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma…in addition to a hysterectomy. Now I’m taking some artificial estrogen. However, I don’t feel sexual excitement and I was wondering if I should take a low dose testosterone gel?
My boyfriend is a 49-year-old cancer survivor. He’s had trouble maintaining an erection for intercourse over the past four months. Could this be a result of chemotherapy and radiation treatments, or the medication he's on?
I’m a quad woman and I’ve only been able to have an orgasm from manual stimulation. Am I missing something?
I’m a woman and – due to muscular dystrophy – I’m a quadriplegic who uses a ventilator. I’ve also had a hysterectomy. Both of these changes came before I started sexual activity…so I can’t compare “before” and “after.” I’ve only ever had an orgasm from manual stimulation instead of intercourse. That’s great, but am I missing something?
I have spina bifida and epilepsy. My medications are known to lower libido. Is there a test to find out if mine is lowered?
I’m a man who was born with spinabifida, and I developed temporal lobe epilepsy at the age of 10. I’m in my late 30s now, and I don’t have a lot of interest in sex...so I’m reluctant to start relationships. I have been taking medication for epilepsy for the last 15 years, but I just found out that it can contribute to a low libido. How would I know if I have a low libido? Is there a way to test it? Just know this for sure would increase my confidence in relating to the opposite sex.
I’m a male C5 quad, and I like to perform oral sex on my female partner. She enjoys it, but after prolonged stimulation of her clitoris, she says it gets numb and orgasm is harder to reach. She wants me to stimulate her anus to give her clitoris a rest. Is this harmful?
I’m a healthy 46-year-old woman. My boyfriend is a 47-year-old quad. After being together a year, we’ve found many ways to be sexually intimate with each other...even though he can't have sexual intercourse. One of the things he enjoys is my giving him head. He has an indwelling catheter, which we usually leave in. Can I contract any infections from doing this? I'm concerned because he has frequent bladder infections.
My paraplegic girlfriend and I would like to try anal sex...but we aren't sure if it will cause a bowel accident, or if it’s safe.
I’ve survived a spinal cord injury. Now I’d like to know if I can learn to orgasm again. I’m a woman and I have a C4 injury with about 80% sensory below the shoulders. I can "feel" a lot, but the big bang eludes me. I have learned from my physical therapy that my body is very responsive to learning. What is it that would help me "re-educate” my intimate body?