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Men's Sexual Health: Desire

Desire Introduction:
Sexual desire is much more complex than it may appear on the surface. When desire is present, and when it is congruent with a person’s behaviors and values, it is usually accepted without too much thought. When something is amiss, however, things can become complicated. Low sexual desire can have physical causes (such as chronic illness, hormonal imbalance or medication interaction) or psychological causes (such as stress, guilt, or poor body image). Physical desire issues can lead to psychological concerns, and vice versa. This channel deals with these and other topics relating to sexual desire.

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  • I am a healthy male who loves womem. I have a fetish and it has seemed to take over my life. It is very difficult for me to have normal intercourse without applying that fetish. I have now met a incr ....
  • My husband is 36 and I'm 39. We didn't date for long and were married eight months ago. In the beginning of our relationship he could get hard from oral sex and orgasm. He wanted to have sex all th ....
  • Okay, long story. My sexual desires began with a foot fetish at a very young age and over time it developed into sexual masochism; humiliation, enslavement, the whole nine yards. These feelings were V ....
  • Hello Dr. Konstance, I've read some of your past responses to questions on the sexual health website, and I figured you'd be able to help me with my search. I'e long had issues with sexuality: fe ....
  • I was emotionally and sexually abused by my mother, and I was discouraged from masturbating by Catholic teachers, both of these during my sexually formative years between ages 7 and 14. The result has ....
  • I'ma 17 yrs old guy doing my engineering.I have a high sex drive. I masturbate daily. After when semen comes out I feel guilty. I want to leave this habit completely so that i don't have problems in m ....
  • Well, it all started a couple of years ago.My husband and i sarted daing 12/17/00 and we pretty much had sex regularly but when he got his own apartment ,is when it all started.it is now 5 years later ....
  • This question is, what i would think, very akward (although im sure you're used to akward questions). I feel somewhat guilty for asking it, but i must know... I enjoy dirty talk. Not in a perverted, c ....
  • Hi, I am a healthy 21 year old virgin male and i have always had a healthy sex drive but around 6-7 months ago, i noticed it diminishing slightly and when i was with a partner i noticed that i wasnt a ....
  • My boyfriend is 37 and I am 34. We are totally compatible in all ways. We are in love with each other but he has a very low sex drive. He said he has always been like this. I am not sure what to do ....
  • hi, ive been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years and the sex use to be great but for the past 6 months he would prefer to be on his own with a porn video and if i do finally get sex he never gets ....
  • i am having a problem with my man in the bedroom we are a gay couple been together for almost 10 months hes not a very sexual person and i have a high sex drive i am 22 hes 43 my problem is he always ....
  • Well, I'm not sure where to begin so I suppose I'll just do the best I can to describe everything. I'll use a chronological order to describe my issues.

    I started masturbating when I was very y ....

  • OK. this is a question about my fiancee. He is 31 and has a very low sex drive. I am 21 and love him to death he is perfect in every other way. We have a great relationship. Always open with eachothe ....
  • I have a compulsion to see naked men being viewed as an object and enjoyed by fully clothed women. I like to do it also if I get a chance. Thinking about this itself helps my erection stay longer when ....
  • Hi, sorry I couldn't answer you back earlier. So ,you think that finding women less apealing and exciting and all those problems will go away with time and I'll be like I was before in my attitude tow ....
  • Thanks for such a quick answer. I was happy eating ice cream everyday, if you know what I mean, because I had a goal in life that ( amongst others ) was to have a pleasurable sex life with a beatiful ....
  • I'm writing you because something unexplainable has been annoying me and making me unhappy lately, I was hoping you could help. I turned 15 last week . About a week ago I was a perfectly happy heteros ....
  • Dear Doctor. I am an unmarried virgin male age 27 . I do not get erection on sexual stimulie like watching movies with sexual contents. When i mastrubate I have to provide the stimulus by my hand and ....
  • I fear that I have a low sex drive. my girlfriend reminds me that its not normal for a man to want sex only once a week or once every two weeks.is there some kind of an all natural supplement thet wil ....
  • My husband and I have been together 7 years and he isn't intrested in sex at all. He says that he likes it and all when we do have sex maybe once every other month but he just doesn't want it. He was ....
  • I am 19 years old and a virgin. I've never been in any sort of relationship with a male partly because I dont believe I'm ready for one and partly because I was brought up in a very culturally strict ....
  • I would like to know if there is an herb or medicine I could take to reduce my libido. I've been married for 17 years, and my wife is unable to have sex. My libido causes me to have nearly constant ....
  • My boyfriend was treated for depression for several years and he was on medication. He recently quit taking his medication thinking that would increase his sex drive. But, it hasn't. He spent 8 yea ....
  • Hi, I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 years. In the last 3 his sexual interest has decreased dramatically. We have sex maybe once a month. He has a stressful job but even on the weekend and ....
  • I am 12 yrs. old and I discovered masturbating when I was 11. I was a regular masturbator, masturbating at 2 times a day. Now all of a sudden I don't feel like masturbating. Is something wrong or ....
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    PLEASE SIR I MAKE A REQUEST THAT PLEEEZ ANSWER MY THIS QUESTION AS IT IS VERY URGENT AND IMPORTANT FOR ME.

    Sir i am 21 yrs of age and I think my penis size is 5.5 kinds,well th ....

  • When me and my girlfriend are fooling around she tries her hardest to make me hard but I never end up hard. Why is this?
  • lack of interest and find sex boring
  • My boyfrend and I have been together for the past two years and have had a very good relationship. But for the past year and a half I have found that he lacks interest in having sex. Now i have hear ....
  • My husband and I are in our 40's and were married last year. Prior to marriage he didn't have an extremely strong sex drive but we had sex several times a month and occasionally more often but since w ....
  • I have noticed that the consistency/makeup of my ejaculate has changed markedly from thick, creamy, sticky to thin/clear and very little of it. The nature of my orgasm seems to have diminished (but I ....
  • After being in a fairly long-term relationship, I split up with my girlfriend for being unfaithful. We had a very active and incredible sexlife which has continued periodically after we broke up. ....
  • Me and my fiance have been together for 9mths and will be married this april. At the beginning of our relationship we decided to wait until we are married to have sex and it has been a problem for use ....
  • Hello, I have been married for 33 years. For the past several years I have had problems keeping an erection with my wife. After our last child was born 24 years ago she began not being as interested ....
  • My question is actually for my partner. When have been discussing a problem he has been having. Lately he just hasn't had a sex drive. Well it kind of comes and goes but most of the time he has no des ....
  • I used to consume large amount of marijuana since i was 18. BOut 1 1/2 ears of extreme smoking. I stopped a couple of months ago. High amounts means average 5 blunts a week to 10 blunts a week. I had ....
  • Too much pre-ejaculate and overly aroused when dancing close, making out. The other night I was at a club dancing close with a girl rubbing against each other. Later I could see a small amount of pr ....
  • Is it safe--and effective--to use rHGH products for increasing sexual desire? I didn't marry until age 52. Even then, it has been "take it or leave it." I was abstinent for years at a time during my ....
  • My husband's low sexual desire
  • I was born with spinabifida and developed epilepsy at the age of 10. I am now in my late thirties. Browsing the web I discovered that Phenytoin can lower sexual libido. I have been taking Phenytoin ....
  • I stumbled upon your bio as a "referral" from an "autism" search. I am 21 years old and have been diagnosed with Aspergers since 1996. I just wanted to say hi and how wonderful it is to see that a ....
  • My fiance and I have been together for over 3 years. Although we have not had intercourse we do enjoy a healthy sexual life. However, my fiance becomes aroused quite easily. He is 24 years old and ....
  • What hormones are directly involved in orgasm and ejaculation? Could one be normally formed sexually, but have a hormone deficiency that prevented orgasm? Are their hormones involved in genital sensit ....
  • hi, i'm a 29 years old male who's still virgin!! i've been masturbating since i was 14, i'm getting married so soon, but i think that my sex drive is not as it used to be, is there any way to increase ....
  • I have been considering becoming a eunuch because of my high sex drive. Believe me I am serious about this. I don't see any M.D.s on your list of experts, but surely there must be someone who can exp ....
  • I am a 24 year old male. I want to have sex with women. I do not want to have sex with men. Why do I find some guys so good looking and why does this make me feel guilty and anxious?
  • i was used to mansturbate, now my penis is not sensitive & not responsible to sexual feelings is it this problem impotency is permanent actually ihave loosed mr errection & interest in sex gradually ....
  • I’ve been forced to initiate sex for the last five years or so. My wife manages to muster up the energy to participate when I ask her to – about once a month. Lately, my erections haven’t been v ....
  • I'm 70 years old, and I still have the hots for my wife. My mind and body aren't in synch like they used to be, though. My erections come and go, both before and during sex. Do you have any ideas for ....
  • My 30-year-old husband hasn’t been much interested in sex for the past two weeks. We had intercourse three days ago and everything was fine, but he has not been able to ejaculate since then either ....
  • I've always had a very high sex drive. In my late teens and 20s I was not very concerned; I though it would simply decrease over time. It hasn't, however, and I'm wondering if there is anything I can ....
  • My interest in sex has been on a steady decline for the last year or so. When I do have sex with my wife, I ejaculate, but do not have the sensation of an orgasm. I have no trouble obtaining an erec ....
  • My boyfriend (we are both 18) has lost his sex drive. He doesn't want to do anything sexual (kissing etc). He says he still loves and finds me sexually attractive, but doesn't want sexual activity w ....
  • Difficulty getting/maintaining erection , low sex drive
  • I fear that a man I have fallen in love with may in fact be a masochist. As the relationship progressed, there have been subtle hints that lead me to believe this. I also feel that he struggles with t ....
  • I have an overactive libido and frequently masterbate 3-4 times a day is that too much will i suffer repercussions from that?
  • my partener has low sex drive and i have high or normal his sex drive has gone less and less for the last three years we have been together 6 years please help i get upset as i fell he dosnt love me h ....
  • My husband has recently had difficulty ejaculating. Over the past two weeks he has had less interest in masturbation and intercourse. When we had intercourse he was able to ejaculate, but has not been ....
  • I am 35 and seeing a man 55yrs. old. I'm just wondering about male sexuality at that age.What can you tell me.
  • Wendy, I am hoping you will answer to this email. I tried another person on the panel, but didn't hear back - maybe this question is more appropriate for you!. I recognized you name from where I liv ....
  • MY BOYFRIEND AND I USED TO HAVE A VERY HEALTHY AND ENJOYABLE SEX LIFE. WE WOULD HAVE SEX 3-6 TIMES A WEEK, SOMETIMES FOR HOURS AT A TIME. ABOUT 3 MONTHS AGO HE LOST HIS JOB, HIS BILLS GOT BEHIND AND ....
  • My partner is 48 yrs old and I am 33. We have been together 3 yrs. He has no sexual desire. There is lots of cuddling, and closeness, but no passion on his part. I find him very attractive. We ha ....
  • I am a little nervous asking a sexual question. But, During the last several years, I have done a lot of work on healing from abuse (emotional and sexual). For most of my life I have struggled with ....
  • I have been married for 10 years and in the last 4 years or so I will find myself attempting to have sex with my wife in the middle of our sleeping. Usually 2-4 in the morning. Most times I don't re ....
  • I am 27.5 years old. Until a little less than a month ago, I was a virgin. I have always had a strong desire for sexual inimacy, and sometimes found it overpowering. I have had what I will label a ....
  • I just got married in June, and things have been well, but my husband has a much higher sex drive than myself. I think he would love to have sex twice a day. I'm a twice a month sort of person. This h ....
  • I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years and we are talking about getting married. Our relationship is wonderful except when it comes to our love life. We are both aware of a problem and neith ....
  • I am a 30 year old female whose partner of 10 years has had a major plunge in his sexual drive for the past year or so. We usually had intercourse twice a week, often on weekends since we both work bu ....
  • I am a 35-year-old male C6-7 quad (13 years), and started taking Baclofen four years ago for spasms. Before that, I had a healthy sex drive. Now my sex drive is none. I have an understanding wit ....
  • The most satisfactory sexual experiences I've had are with other people with disabilities. That's fine, but how can I convince potential nondisabled partners that I have a libido and a responsiv ....
  • My wife is always wanting to make love. How can I increase my libido to match hers? I want to make her happy. We are also trying to have a baby. I can achieve an erection but sometimes I lose it right ....
  • Is it normal to get aroused by any little thing a women does to you. Such as hugs or kisses or even holding hands. My girlfriend always asks why I'm so aroused, and to me it's kind of embarrassing... ....
  • My question deals with sexual excitement and maintaining an erection. I'm concerned that I have a lower sex drive than normal. I have trouble maintaining a high level of excitement after about 10 minu ....
  • I am a woman of 34 years old and my husband is 44. We are married for 8 years and we have 2 children. My problem i ....
  • I am a kLeinfelter Syndrome man, age 56. I have been on testosterone therapy (2cc/3 weeks, deletestril) for about 25 years. ....
  • What increases a males sexual drive, EG Food? Drinks? etc
  • Hello, I thought I'd seek out some help for a couple reasons. A) I don't have health insurance, and neither does my ....
  • I'm tying to fine some information on A-Sexuality...I believe my husband is. Am I using the right term here "A-Sexuality" meaning ....
  • I am a 42 year old female - and my fiance is the same age. We have been together over 2 years and plan on marrying in 6 months. The problem is the lack of sexual relations/desire on his part. My ....
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