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Disability and Illness: Rediscovering Sex After Disability/Illness/Trauma

Rediscovering Sex After Disability/Illness/Trauma Introduction:
Every year, millions of people around the world confront a life-threatening illness or aquire a disabilty and survive. What follows for them is a physical and emotional roller coaster of treatment and coping. Often, the most difficult adjustment involves sexual activities. An important first step back to a rewarding sexual relationship involves communicating openly and directly with partners, doctors and other health care professionals. This is not always easy, however. People often have trouble discussing sexual issues or simply feel lucky to be alive and, therefore, as if they don't have the right to "complain" about changes in sexual functioning. Sexualhealth.com can help people who have experienced life-threatening illnesses or disabilities and their partners down the road of sexual rediscovery and fulfillment.

Rediscovering Sex After Disability/Illness/Trauma Articles:

  • Tantric Sex - A Different Perspective
  • Making Babies: At-Home Vibrostimulation and Insemination
  • Facilitated Sex: The Next Frontier in Sexuality?
  • Husband is Not Interested in Sex Anymore after Getting Injured
  • I'm Sorry She Couldn't Love Me
  • What does your partner find sexy about your disability?
  • Access To Multiple Orgasm For Everyone
  • Sex After A Stroke
  • Sexuality and Quality of Life
  • Interview with Dr. Mitch Tepper, Founder of SexualHealth.com
  • Chronic Illnesses and Disabilities Affecting Women's Sexuality
  • Human Sexual Response Cycles
  • Options for Women interested in Intercourse
  • Physical management for sexual activities
  • We cannot restore sensation....
  • If you do not want to have a baby...
  • Sex Toys and Where to Purchase Them
  • Sexual Pleasure: But What About Me?
  • Jeremy Joseph
  • Disability and Parenting
  • The Real Accessibility Issue
  • Finding the Right Mate
  • The Center for Research on Women with Disabilities (CROWD)
  • Beware: Drugs Can Cause Erections to Drop
  • Overcoming The Difficult Effects of Peyronie's Disease
  • Rediscovering Sex After Illness Or Trauma
  • Inevitable Costs of Aging
  • Prostate Cancer Treatment Effects: Overview
  • Nerve-Sparing Operations: The Miracle Treatment? Part II
  • Suggestions for Symptom Management
  • Sexual Healing with a Disability
  • Sex and Back Pain
  • Breast Cancer and Sexuality
  • Success Stories
  • Meet the Sexperts
  • Love Bites Smorgasbord
  • Sex in the Later Years
  • IVUN Joins Those Studying Sexual Activity and Chronic Illness
  • Sex After A Stroke

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  • Answered Disability and Illness - Rediscovering Sex After Disability/Illness/Trauma Questions:

  • I have a motor-nerve disease. It causes spasticity in my legs,and hands. Because of that sex is too labor intentsive to enjoy. Do you know of any resources online, or in books, that might help? Thank ....
  • why cant i orgasm? i just want to be normal!! i cant help but think that i cant because i was raped when i was 15 and am now only 18. when my bf tries to play with my clitoris my legs start to shake a ....
  • I can not reach an orgasm due to a big figth with my husband about a month ago never happened to me in the last 20 years do I need theraphy?
  • How safe or risky is anal sex 2 weeks after a total hysterectomy?
  • Do partners, where one partner has completely lost their sex drive, ever agree on some sort of outsourcing for the driven partner? My girlfriend and i have been together for 6 years and have a wonderf ....
  • Hi, where can I find articles and information about Cauda equina syndrome? I'm a 34 year old healthy and active female two years post op after emergency lumbar laminectomy w/o fusion and a partial dis ....
  • I have spina bifida and hydrocephalus. I am trying to discover if women with my particular condition have any specific difficulties in becoming pregnant and also if pregnancy poses any specific proble ....
  • Thank you for taking the time to answer my question. My problem is as follow, im a incomplete paraplegic and i have some problems having an erection my doctor recommended viagra and some times it wor ....
  • Sir, i've was on clonazepam for last 2and 1/2 yrs and still on 600mg of sodium valporate daily- for myoclonus syndrome. Switched on to homeo and still continuing sod.valporate. A known case of severe ....
  • How do I teach my husband (who has high functioning Asperger's)better body/sexual communication awareness skills, without him feeling criticized and giving up? When we married, I knew he seemed sexual ....
  • I am a 20-year-old woman with high-functioning autism who is currently living indepedently and attending a women's college. However, I have had questions about sexuality for some time, and my family ....
  • Hello, I am a mentor for a 15 year old young man with the ausburger form of autism. He is a very bright young man. Recently he has become aware of body image and the social aspects of dating and ....
  • sometimes after having sex i experience headaches and dizziness if i try to stand or sit up. could this be something physically wrong with me?
  • Hello Konstance, I am working on a project to make sexual health information available to people with disabilities who use AAC (augmentative communication for people who can not speak). This is a popu ....
  • A neurologist has examined me and said I may have pudendal,nervi ergentes or other sacral nerve damage or other loss of function issues with my penis/scrotum. I've had both EMG and Nerve Conduction Te ....
  • When I was 13 my step father started molesting me. By the time I was 14, he was raping me almost every night.I finally told on him when I was 15 1/2. Of course I've been to several therapists and psyc ....
  • I am 29 years old and have great difficulty with penetration. I was molested and have been in therapy for 9 years now. It has helped me a great deal but I still cannot get over this penetration hurdle ....
  • I am unable to penetrate as befor that only i ejaculate we tried many times but with no sucess now we have stopped doing that act but get satisfaction by other means like oral,stimulation,carressing. ....
  • Hello, I'm 31 and i've been married for 7 years. During all that time i had 3 children and a normal sexual activity. I divorced almost two years ago. It have been a traumatic divorce for me. Now I ....
  • i am an 18year old female. I bleed after masturbation, even if i don't orgasm. The bleeding usually lasts for a few days but on occassion has continued for up to 3 weeks. I am positive that it occu ....
  • I have been in a serious relationship for 8 years now. I am very much in love with my partner but just recently my sex drive has taken a nose dive since my partner told me that making love with me ha ....
  • Hello, I am an RN, Certified Developmental Disability Nurse. I have been providing Sex-Ed to indivuals w/DD, staff trng, presenting at Conferences, re: supporting relationships and sexuality for peopl ....
  • I was born with spinabifida and developed epilepsy at the age of 10. I am now in my late thirties. Browsing the web I discovered that Phenytoin can lower sexual libido. I have been taking Phenytoin ....
  • I am a man whom is disabled (C4-5 Quadriplegic) and gay. I have questions and concerns about anal sex without having sensation.
  • I stumbled upon your bio as a "referral" from an "autism" search. I am 21 years old and have been diagnosed with Aspergers since 1996. I just wanted to say hi and how wonderful it is to see that a ....
  • I am a gay male and am only recently diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome. I thought being gay was tough. (I "came out" late; at 29). Asperger Syndrome is another situation where I have "known I was di ....
  • how do I help my mild MR 10 year old son learn that the behavior that was done to him at camp is not the correct way to behave. we have talked about it over and over, and he says he understands that t ....
  • Is it possible that i was sexually abused as a child and have no recollection of it? I am 27 years old and have always had painful intercourse. I have been asked in the past by nurse practitioners if ....
  • I am a 33 year old graduate student studying Clinical Social Work. I was a Domestic Violence Councelor by profession, prior to relocating to enter school. I have been assigned to work next semester in ....
  • MY MILD CEREBRAL PALSEY CONDITION IS CAUSING NIGHTLY ERECTIONS. IS THERE ANY CARE YOU CAN ADVISE?
  • I am a residential counselor at a group home for developmentally disabled adults. We have never had a sexuality policy or sex ed program. Recently, a client with independent privelages perpetrated a ....
  • I am trying to find out a way to get ahold of an instructional video on masterbation for a Male, mentally challenged person who is 35. He bounces on the floor to get the sensation, but cannot finish ....
  • need information (written and videos) for general discussion on sexuality especially for a young adult population, 18- 40yrs. Population includes students with disabilities such as as cerebral palsy, ....
  • I am enquiring on behalf of a 26 yr old male friend with who is unsure about what women want from men? and initiating relationships.How to know if women find him attractive.
  • Hello, I have a question concerning my orgasms and birth conrol pills. For the past few months, it has been a lot harder for me to reach orgasm and the ones that I do have are very small ones. Somet ....
  • Dear Dr. Owens I had direct Inguinal Hernia repair a week and a half ago. About 5 days after surgery I masturbated and then just 3 days ago my wife brought me to orgasm orally. Yesterday I mastur ....
  • My childhood through pre-teen years was filled with multiple acts of abuse by alot of different men. It all started around the age of 5 with my grandfather. This was really confusing to me, I didn't k ....
  • I am going in for a hysterectomy in 4 weeks for adenomyosis. Will my husband be able to tell during sex ? Will I be bigger or will it not change much in the sense of feeling for him? I fear that I wil ....
  • I am a Life Skills Facilitator for an organization that provides attendent services for adults with physical disabilities. Every Tuesday evening we have a group of these adults who come out to discus ....
  • Difficulty maintaining erection, and feeling of severe numbness or loss of penile sensation.
  • For about one month, I have been experiencing numbness in my whole penis. I can press it and I won't feel a thing.
  • I am a physically fit 21 year old Caucasian. I have never orgasmed in my whole life, I also have never ejaculated (through masterbation or by stimulation by another) but I do have wet dreams every s ....
  • I am having a sexual relationship with a 33 year old female and I seem to have premature ejaculation after intercourse. I have been diagonosed with nonverbal learning disability or asperger's syndr ....
  • since 7 years (long before my hormones were getting out of balance) I suddenly got a pain at (in) my clitoris. It feels like neuralic pain. The specialists and sexuologist were not able to help me. Th ....
  • Dr Fleming I am a health professional studying for an MSc and am currently doing an assignment on sexuality in cancer patients. I would be eternally grateful for any help that you are able to give me ....
  • I am a t3/4 complete paraplegic male resulting from a MVA 12 years ago. I have discovered just recently with the use of Viagra and a persistence lady friend that I could ejaculate. This was a little p ....
  • I work with hard of hearing (HOH) children (as an audiologist). Many parents of HOH kids ask for literature to teach about sex etc. I have not been able to find specific pamphlets etc. The parents w ....
  • I'm a 32-year-old hetero male with Asperger's Syndrome. I've never had a girlfriend (or lover in any sense of the word -- I'm a virgin), and have never really come close to doing so. I just don't ....
  • I have high sex desires but many times l can not maintain an erection. At times I go soft even still in the act, making me fake an orgasm for my partner. My penis is terribly small, about 5cm and l c ....
  • I am a 29 year old female. I have been married for 6 years and 9 months, and in the past year and a half or so my sex drive has almost completely vanished. My husband and I used to have sex 2-3 times ....
  • My wife was sexually abused as a child by her brother for a number of years. She has undergone therapy and is doing quite well. She has never been very sexual and i was told by the therapist that is w ....
  • I am a 28 year old female who had a baby almost a year ago. Since I gave birth I lost sexual desire. Before the baby I had desire often and my husband and I had a healthy sex life now I have none, zip ....
  • I have got "CROOKED PENIS" i.e It's not straight. It's having a curvature downwards.So please tell me whether I would enjoy normal sex life and is there any way to cure this problem of curvature
  • What would you recommend for a newly married couple with developmental disabilities who are hesitant to consummate their marriage? Do you have a 'learning' video available?
  • I have a lot of trouble with vaginal dryness and loss of sexual pleasure sensation. I was 37 when I had a complete hysterecotomy and my ovaries sugrically removed. I have been on premarim from 1987 t ....
  • I'v had back surgery,and i'm wordering if i will everyenjoy sex again .
  • I am in depression as I am just 20 and had an undescended testicle removed at age of 6. I feel sucidal cos I stay here in India and most of the guys don't know any problem of undescended testicle. I f ....
  • Hello, Please help me. I am a 31 year old woman with a degenerative genetic disorder which causes me a great deal of chronic pain, some joint instability, and muscle spasticity. I take neurontin an ....
  • I'm writing on behalf of a "client" - a young teen-ager whose father is concerned that, because of his cerebral palsy and mild mental retardation, he doesn't have the social skills required to deal wi ....
  • My husband has been seeing a psychiatrist for depression since April of last year. He is taking Amitriptyline, which has caused him to have trouble ejaculating. It's turned into almost an obsession th ....
  • I've got high blood pressure. Most of the medication that my doctor has prescribed keeps me from having proper erections. Right now, I've been on Ismelin (guanethidine) for a long time. Are there any ....
  • My boyfriend is a 49-year-old cancer survivor. He has trouble maintaining an erection for intercourse for the past four months. It comes and goes, but it's never hard enough for penetration. Could thi ....
  • Bleeding during and after intercourse; Painful intercourse
  • My husband sustained a spinal cord injury just a year after we married. He said that he pretty much is not interested in sex anymore. I try to be understanding and assure him that to be even cuddled ....
  • I know what is said about penis size...but what about vagina size? Yeah, yeah, Kegel exercises, but after the birth of my fourth child, the stitches of the epsiotomy ripped loose. 10 months later, my ....
  • My finace has a complete spinal cord injury. He is not able to get an erection or ejaculate. I was just wonder what options we have for having children. What is would the process to remove semen fr ....
  • Hi Dr. I just recently gotten out of a monogamous relationship and the main reason was a sex issue. I'm used to having sex with men who have bigger penis' and my partner is used to having sex with w ....
  • My son is engaged to a 20 year old girl. She was in a car accident on the 23 of Oct. She was in a coma for 60 days. She has woke up and is doing good as far as her mental status. She is paralyzed from ....
  • Can M.S. and depression affect a woman's ability to have an orgasm? If so, can anything be done to improve that ability?
  • i just got married in september. i have been with my husband for 6 wonderful years. he is the kindest, most generous man i've ever met. there is nothing i wouldn't do for him. but i don't like sex. an ....
  • i thought ejaculation was a spinal reflex, when i have sex, it feels great but i dont orgasm or ejaculate, how can this be?
  • I do not have enough size to have intercourse with my girlfriend and I think she may want out of the relationship. Is there anyway to increase or enlarge the size of my penis?
  • I am a sexual abuse and ritual abuse survivor. I have a severe mental obsession with sex, including Sado-Masochistic fantasies. I have, however, a severe repusion and avoidance of any kind of intima ....
  • Hi Linda,I have been in a relationship with someone older than me who has a spinal injury. I am willing to explore other ways of sexual intimacy and he is very satisfying to me. In the beginning it wa ....
  • I had an autologus bone marrow transplant for non-hodgkins lymphoma in 1991 I am taking an estradiol patch 0.1mg per day. iam also taking syntheroid at low doses i cannot feel sexual excitement and ....
  • Since I've had a hysterectomy 12 years ago, my pelvic floor muscles have gotten only worse. The elasticity in my muscles are gone and kegal excercises don't help. My stomach muscles are weak and I hav ....
  • I am a c5 quad and when making love my wife is always on top. She complains this hurts her legs and we don't make love very often. What if anything can we do to change this?
  • I am 22 years old. I have been married for 4 months. I am currently battleing depression. I have been dealing with depression for 3 years. I was taking 20 mg of prozac every day. During this time ....
  • can chemical changes take place after a hysterectomy with the ovaries left intact? what causes anger/agression/stress attacks/nerves/no patience?
  • I'm taking Estratest 1.25/2.5 and Medroxyprogesterone - I have little or no sexual drive. Could I use a testostorne cream too? My husband is about ready to leave, he says I never want to have sex & ....
  • I am 16 and I have never had an orgasm. About a year ago, I started taking the antidepressant Paxil. After about 6 months of taking this, I stopped feeling the sensations of getting aroused. I still ....
  • MY BOYFRIEND AND I USED TO HAVE A VERY HEALTHY AND ENJOYABLE SEX LIFE. WE WOULD HAVE SEX 3-6 TIMES A WEEK, SOMETIMES FOR HOURS AT A TIME. ABOUT 3 MONTHS AGO HE LOST HIS JOB, HIS BILLS GOT BEHIND AND ....
  • My partner is 48 yrs old and I am 33. We have been together 3 yrs. He has no sexual desire. There is lots of cuddling, and closeness, but no passion on his part. I find him very attractive. We ha ....
  • I am a 32 year old graduate student, studying at Columbia University for a MSW in Clinical Social Work. I am an activist and have worked in the concentrations of Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault, ....
  • I had an hernia operation when I was 12. When I recovered, I wanted to take a shower and sa that I have only one testicle left. This was like a shock for me, I never asked my mother why do I had only ....
  • I am a little nervous asking a sexual question. But, During the last several years, I have done a lot of work on healing from abuse (emotional and sexual). For most of my life I have struggled with ....
  • the way my jelly fat looks. can i ever lose it? what can i do to have a orgasm? i still love to have sex.but itfeels like theres something not happening.or i have never experienced one compleatly.i ca ....
  • After having suffered damaged blood vessels in my penis 3 years ago through blockage of penis during ejaculation, I now find that I cannot get a full erection. The bottom half of the penis is hard as ....
  • On 2 occasions in the last few months, my wife and I have made love in the middle of the night. Afterwards she has been upset and when ask why, she has informed me that I awoke here and was very persi ....
  • I have been trying to have intercouse with my boyfriend for the last six months. We are having a size problem, I guess you would call it. We have tried different positions, lubricants and everything ....
  • I would like to know your opinion on how affective hypnosis is on survivors of sexual abuse as a healing tool.
  • I am a male age 50-59 having difficulties with enjoying sex. I get itchs on different parts of my body randomly. First one spot and then another and another. It's not a bug bite type of itch but a ti ....
  • I would like to know the easiest positions for a man with emphysema to have sexual relations without getting too out of breath,he would like to have sex but gets too winded..its been3plus years and it ....
  • I LIVE IN SOUTH AFRICA. HOW CAN I ORDER A FERTI CARE VIBRATOR. I CANT SEEM TO FIND ANY ORDER ADRESS OR CONTACT NO OR WEB SITE OR E MAIL ADRESS. CAN YOU HELP PLEASE
  • My main concern is for myself although my wife is the cause of my questions. My wife has CP and a history of being molested as a child. Her sex drive when we first met (before we were married) was to ....
  • I am a behavior specialist (MA Psych in applied behavior change) currently working with a young male teen with autism who is trying to understand his sexuality. Inappropriate behaviors his family is c ....
  • I am a teaching assistant for a 14 year old boy with autism. I've worked with him for 6 years. I've watched him loose teeth, learn to comb his hair, and go nuts when he sees a pretty girl! Now he is t ....
  • I am a special education teacher who has been asked to teach 12 yr. old autistic students about their budding sexuality. can you point me to come resources
  • I am a 45-year old male who has never had a full sexual relationship. I am not a social inadequate. I have a Cambridge degree, a lot of friends and a good job as a freelance writer. I just feel strang ....
  • I have been a T12 para for only three months and have yet to get an erection. Can I achieve this with a vibrator? Iıve read about a Ferti Care vibrator that claims to be for this exclusive use. ....
  • I have an online relationship with a man who has a T5-6 spinal cord injury. Although I have known him for many years, we didn't become involved intimately until we ran into each other a few months ago ....
  • A small study reported by New Mobility in Feb 1999 suggested that Viagra might enhance sexual arousal in women with spinal cord injury. Anything new on that subject?
  • My partner and I are in a monogamous relationship and have recently become sexually active. Iıve been getting more frequent urinary tract infections and my girlfriend told me it was ....
  • I'm a quadriplegic, 24-year-old male and have never had sex. I get erections all the time but cannot relieve them myself because of my disability. They are getting longer, more frequ ....
  • I am an incomplete C5-6 quad, 26, male, injured nine years. I have no problem getting or maintaining an erection, with little or no stimulation, but the problem is that during interc ....
  • I am a second-year student of occupational therapy preparing for my internship. None of my courses covered sexuality and I am curious: When can an individual resume sexuality activit ....
  • I am a C6-7 incomplete quad with pretty good sensation and no trouble getting erections. The problem is, I can only ejaculate for about two days in a row, sometimes three. Then I mus ....
  • I am a 58-year-old male with post-polio syndrome and have been married for 31 years. Although I have increased limb weakness, general fatigue and joint pain, I have a healthy sex dri ....
  • I have been a T12 para for only three months and have yet to get an erection. Can I achieve this with a vibrator? Iıve read about a Ferti Care vibrator that claims to be for this exclusive use. ....
  • Iım a wheelchair user and am interested in a nondisabled man. He appears to be attracted to me and weıve dated. He hasnıt asked questions about my disability, and Iım not sure how to broach the ....
  • What Is a Sexual Surrogate?
  • I am a male C5 quad, and I like to perform oral sex on my female partner. She enjoys this, but after prolonged stimulation of her clitoris, she says it gets numb and orgasm is harder to reach. S ....
  • I am a 52-year-old woman with multiple sclerosis. Before the onset of MS five years ago, my husband and I made love about once a week and I always had an orgasm. But the more disabled I get the ....
  • Sex has become close to non-existent due to my wife's chronic pain associated with fibromyalgia. What suggestions do you have for us?
  • Sex has become close to non-existent due to my wife's chronic pain associated with fibromyalgia. What suggestions do you have for us?
  • True Connoisseur-ship I am a male C5 quad with limited post-injury experience who loves to satisfy a woman orally. Having said that, I am curious about whether to stick to oral stimulati ....
  • Full Disclosure A woman I recently started dating has expressed an interest in being sexual with me. I have had very few sexual encounters since my disability and don't know how to tell ....
  • Truth in Advertising I recently read an ad in the personals section of a local paper that read, "X-tra Moxie Vertically challenged, horizontally enhanced, educated, professional SWF in s ....
  • Losing Interest I've heard that before you have sex with someone after spinal cord injury it is best to masturbate first to find out what feels good. Well I've tried and I'm not getting ....
  • Awkward and Painful My partner wants me to perform oral sex on him and I am finding this difficult. I am a C4 quad without much trunk stability or strength in my arms so it is easie ....
  • I have a male friend with multiple sclerosis who doesn't think he will ever attract a girlfriend because of his disability. He even says he is not worthy and whoever would want him, he woul ....
  • Solo Pleasure Before my partner and I split up, I had an active sex life. He was the only sexual partner I'd had since the onset of my disability. Now that I am on my own sexually, I am ....
  • Wife and Caregiver I am a 44-year-old man with multiple sclerosis and have two PCAs. My wife says she wants to start doing my personal care to save money, but I am worried that if s ....
  • I am a C 5-7 quad. Before my injury, my boyfriend frequently performed oral sex on me, which I enjoyed. Since my injury, we have not had oral sex because I am afraid of incontinence and am not s ....
  • Who are you guys? Do you just travel around and have sex with people? Do you need more researchers?
  • I have been a T8 para for three years, and have begun a relationship that includes sex. I know I can get pregnant, but I don't know the best way to prevent it. Are there any birth control method ....
  • It seems that the majority of romantic relationships begin with physical attraction between two people. As a 25-year-old C4-5 quad in graduate school, it is difficult for me to get women to see ....
  • I am a 35-year-old male C6-7 quad (13 years), and started taking Baclofen four years ago for spasms. Before that, I had a healthy sex drive. Now my sex drive is none. I have an understanding wit ....
  • Divorce and Disability Are there any studies on divorce among couples in which one person has a disability? What's the main reason for divorce? Does sexual dysfunction play a role? Do people with ....
  • What is a good source for researching sexual positions for lovemaking between two disabled individuals--say two quads who function as high paras? I've read Enabling Romance and Sexual Options fo ....
  • I am ablebodied and four months into a relationship with a para who is numb from the chest down. How do paras experience the feelings from the solar plexus--the gut feelings of "gushing love," j ....
  • I am 36-year-old male C5-6 quad and I use injections to achieve erections. My wife is slightly overweight and the only position that works for us is with her on top and facing away. Even then we ....
  • Getting a Leg Up
  • Am I Missing Something?
  • Can She or Can't She? My girlfriend is a low quad, and I find it difficult to be as sexually intimate as I want to be because she has never told me what she can and can't do. How can I communica ....
  • I'm very attracted to a man with a spinal cord injury, but when we've tried to be intimate, I find that I'm very self-conscious because the focus is more on my pleasure than his. I'm used to the ....
  • Fantasies have become more important to me since I became disabled. How can I communicate them without my partner thinking I'm kinky?
  • When I meet new people, there is the presumption that "people in wheelchairs don't do sex." How do I communicate my interests without getting busted for harassment?
  • My girlfriend--who is paraplegic--and I would like to try anal sex, but aren't sure if it will cause a bowel accident or whether it is safe for her because of her limited
  • Do I still have a G-spot?
  • If I'm totally frank about what works for me, it involves asking my partner to do things for me that are normally performed by an attendant. I feel I'm imposing.
  • I'm nervous about bladder incontinence, and petrified that an accident will ruin a sexual encounter.
  • The brain may be the most important sexual organ, but sometimes insertion is nice as well. What do you suggest for people who don't have, or can't sustain, erections?
  • I don't secrete lubrication the way I did before my accident. What do you advise?
  • I can't use my arms to position myself, so I feel locked into a very passive role. I hate asking my partner to make all the moves. How can I become more active in the relationship myself?
  • The most satisfactory sexual experiences I've had are with other people with disabilities. That's fine, but how can I convince potential nondisabled partners that I have a libido and a responsiv ....
  • The most satisfactory sexual experiences I've had are with other people with disabilities. That's fine, but how can I convince potential nondisabled partners that I have a libido and a responsiv ....
  • I am a 32-yr old male and I would like to ask you a question about something that I'm embarassed to discuss with my doctor: ....
  • I am 52 yrs old and 4yrs ago had a vaginal hysterectomy (Laser). Ever since then I have not been able to have intercourse, i ....
  • My husband and I had a baby nine months ago and our relationship seems to be on a down hill slide. We have had sex no more t ....
  • I have had several prostate surgerys, and also several hernia repairs. During the last hernia repair the cord going to my ri ....
  • I am a married male, age 35. Since taking an anti-depressant called Zoloft (I am still on it), my orgasms seem less intense. What can I do to increa ....
  • I have been taking 75mg. of Effexor once a day to fight panic attacks. Originally I was taking Paxil, but I had an almost complete loss of sensation ....
  • I am a 41 yr. old female that has a low libido. My gyno put me on testosterone cream, and ran several tests, but the cream did not work. However, my ....
  • What about sex after hysterectomy? Will it feel the same? Will HE feel the same? I am very worried, the time has come to res ....
  • I had a appendicitis, ruptured, and I have also had 2 surgeries for cyst removals on my right ovary. All three surgeries I ....
  • I am a 49 year old male. I have always had difficulty in achieving an orgasm. Lately, I have begun to wonder whether an inh ....
  • I am a 37 yr. old woman - with no past problem with orgasm. I recently had my second child via a rather difficult vaginal bi ....
  • I am a healthy 46 year old woman. My boyfriend is a 47 year old quad. We have been together for a year now. We hav ....
  • I am a man of 39 years old. I have very few sexual experience up to now and nearly all of them ended in masturbation by my ....
  • I'm able-bodied and considering getting into a relationship with a woman who has cerebral palsy. What do I need to know about having sex with someone who has CP?
  • Thanks for the Email dated 23rd March. I have few more questions. 1.) Has the relationship of your men been with women who are also disabled or do they seek the approval of the so called "normal" wome ....
  • What about people who have cerebral palsy and no sexual partner. What are their rights?
  • I'm a 35 year-old man with cerebral palsy and I've never had a sexual relationship. I'm not feeling like a sexual person anymore. What can I do?
  • I would like to know if it is ok to ask a female attendant to masturbate me because I have CP and it is difficult for me to do and sometimes doesn't work.
  • I would appreciate any information that you can give on cerebral palsy as it effects sexual desire and the ability to engage in sexual relations
  • I am a 24 year old male and I don't think I have problems with impotence because I am able to have erections. How ....
  • Hi. My argument: should disabilities live at all, if they are having irredeemably malady... ? I'm one of them. I'm 'he' (26) and a student of 3rd course. Well, when I go to work after a year, for who ....
  • Do you have any information on the procedure of hymen restoration?
  • I am 34 yrs old and have had CP since birth. Recently my interest in sex has peeked and I have had several encounters in recent months some of them being intercourse and some not. My question refers ....
  • I'm a 24 year old and am married to a 23 year old wheelchair user who has CP. We would like to know if there is any known reason why we should fear him not being able to inpregrant me? He has complete ....
  • I am a nurse. A man with severe CP has contacted me and has asked for my help. He says he has never had an orgasm and he is now 32 years old. He can't masturbate himself. (I do have a special place in ....
  • I have spina bifida. It is a lower bifida and I have full control of bowel and bladder and walk with aids. My right knee is fused so it will not bend. My left leg is flexible. My questions are, that I ....
  • I'm an aide for a 37 year old man with severe CP. He uses a head-controlled wheelchair, and has very limited mobility in his arms, with no control over his hands. He has a periodic sexual partner who ....
  • Frigid wife of 22yrs never had big O. Doesn't like any foreplay. No oral sex. Can't touch Breasts. Can't lick,kiss or anythi ....
  • I have been reviewing your web site. I have been consulting with doctors but since I had a sigmoid resectioning done on my c ....
  • I have recovered from a 5 year stroke to a certain degree. This has created a serious problem between me and my wife. She ....
  • Please help me..I am about to marry her a girl whose clitoris was removed due to castration, can it be reconstructed to let her enjoy the ....
  • I am a C6-7 quad. After my car accident I was exposed to a lot of radiation from x-rays. Since my recovery I have had a rather irreg ....
  • I have had the prostate Turp surgery. Of course my ejaculation no longer is emitted through the penis but goes into the bladder and discharged with urine. I am homosexual, and find I do not feel the s ....
  • What self esteem! I am a C5 incomplete quadraplegic who was raped buy a gay man.
  • do you think that by not seeing any images of sexually attractive or positive physically disabled people, that portion of ....
  • I'm a 24-year-old Korean male with Cerebral Palsy and Generalized Dystonia. Though I can masturbate in a limited fashion, as I age, I find myself in need of coitus, or at least oral stimulation or ....
  • I am 50 and have had sex twice in the last 20 years. I no longer feel that sex is dirty or to be gotten over with ASAP. However I don't connect with people in general and men not at all. I suffer with ....

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