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Stimulating the Clitoris with Intercourse(11/27/2009) by Petra Zebroff Nature has indeed played a strange joke on us humans by designing a woman with her sexual "hot spot" outside the vagina. The location of the clit is nonessential to reproduction making it one of the only organs that has no other purpose than of pleasure. Perhaps there is a very good evolutionary reason for this obvious oversight, which we are not yet aware of. Nevertheless, most women are left with the reality of needing that extra clitoral stimulation during intercourse to be able to orgasm. By far the most common question we receive at Libida is how couples can put more focus on the clit during intercourse. The Anatomy The clitoris sits outside and above the vagina where the lips come together. It is protected by a hood and is between ½" to 2" long -- with an average of 3/4" in length and 1/4" in diameter. Luckily, this is just the part we can see! The complete clitoris is actually approximately the size of a flaccid penis -- 4" in total. The part which you don't see extends down into two long legs (crura) that reach well into the inside of the body on either sides of the vulva. Because the clitoris is positioned inches outside of the vagina, it is almost impossible for the penis to stimulate it directly during intercourse. The clitoris does, in fact, get some clitoral stimulation from the act of intercourse. As the penis pulls out, it pulls the inner lips to the clitoris and rubs against it (pleasurable in itself). For some women, this can be enough to bring them to orgasm, but for over 60% of women it is not. Positions that hit the spot best Since every woman's anatomy and geography is slightly different, there is no panacea-position for hitting the spot. But, here are the common ones:
Look Ma, No Hands: The best positions for stimulating the clitoris without using outside stimulation Scissors - Lie on your sides, face each other, put his leg (and thigh) in between yours - his upper thigh can put great pressure on the clitoris. It's a Handful
The best positions that allow hands free to roam to the right spot.
Get creative:
Tired? How to ask for more Plain and simple -- just ask. Take his hand and guide it to your clit. This is the least confrontational, and is very successful if he is paying attention. Talk to him when you are not sexual with each other. Tell him you need that extra stimulation. Give him some suggestions on which way you like it. Talk creatively about how to get the stimulation you want. It can really turn him on to hear you tell him what you want. Rub it yourself and hope he gets the hint. Watch a porn movie together that features clit stimulation and tell him how much it would turn you on to have him do that to you. Scream : "Touch my clitoris right now!" Tips for Men Remember that when she is excited, the clitoris will retreat behind the hood, which can make it a little hard to find.
The clitoris can become overly sensitive and will then welcome "indirect" stimulation. In that case, massage in circles around the area, look for her reactions, and ask her what she'd like you to do.
And Keep in Mind
Analogous sex organs between the sexes:
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